A few days ago, a long lost “friend” of mine sent me a friendster message asking as to why my friendster status is currently “It’s complicated”. Here she comes, all concered about the status of my relationship just because of my friendster status. I mean come on, who doesn’t get intrigued by the sordid details of a relationship on the rocks?
This is a person who was like a sister to me back in the day, but had majorly slacked off on keeping touch. I try my best to send letters and gifts (via door to door) to her because it was important to me that I let her know I think of her eventhough we’re miles apart. But after a while you get tired when they can hardly be bothered to write, hence this huge gap between us.
I know it happens, even to the best of friends. But please don’t give me this “all the people can die as long as you don’t disappear from my life” shit. She has the gall to tell me that, and the fact that she misses me, to which I reply “good, sometimes i miss myself too”. To tell me that now comes off as hypocrisy. Don’t feed me this bullshit how I matter to you when YOU’re the one who stopped taking the time to keep in touch. Friendships need work, I’ve tried my best to keep my end. I don’t need lame excuses as to why your arthritic hands can’t type an email in proper english (no she has no arthritis).
As a friend, I’m easy to please. You can’t expect me to call all the time, but give me a call and I’m pretty much up for anything. I don’t expect to talk to you on the phone everyday either, because we all have things to do. I don’t need a reason to get you a gift, I got it because I thought of you. I’m not oversensitive so we can poke fun at each other for hours, as long as you’re fair. Money’s not a problem with me either, because money will not make me happy nor will it buy me a person’s love or respect. And I’m not so high and mighty that I don’t or can’t say “I’m sorry” or “I was wrong”.
I haven’t had a “best friend” in years. Louie’s probably the closest thing to one (boyfriends and the like not applicable), but I don’t want to burden her with the label since she already has a ton of best friends. My previous best friends have come and gone, leaving me with a ton of disappointments. But what can you do? You win some, you lose some.
But I’m not such an island. Instead I have an inner circle that I call “bestest friends” (you know who you are). I have my sister and an adopted brother (Alan) who I get along great. Then there’s Angelo and Mark & Co., the Humber people, and then the usual odd friends here and there. One doesn’t need a ton of friends, you just need really really good ones.
Back to my prodigal friend, I’m not so cold as to ignore her. I’ve talked to her a bit about what’s been happening, but based on her “oh that’s good” replies, I know she only wanted to dig the details of a potentially messy relationship. And for those who are wondering, my friendster status is like that because I found it to be the most interesting. If they had options like “currently part of an f4 harem” or “being one with the aliens” I would’ve picked one of those. It’s just me being me. Get it?
Les told me that for some, their friendster statuses is a way of getting closure. A friend of hers hasn’t accepted her breakup with her beau hence she hasn’t changed her friendster status. And the friend’s ex-bf hasn’t isn’t going to change his either until she’s officially moved on from couplehood. Les herself just went through a breakup, and after 3 weeks of self-healing she changed her friendster status to “single”. A few days later Les’ ex-bf, Dick the Dick changed his status to “single” too.
For some it holds a lot of meaning, but for me, a status is status is a status. Heck, after reading my friendster profile wouldn’t anybody realize just how off the rocker I am? So stop with the digging questions. If you really care, track me on gtalk/yahoo/msn/icq. If you really know me, you should know by now I live online. 